January 15:
What is a life lesson you feel everyone can benefit from learning?
Don’t give up the fairy tale.
All my young life I was told fairy tales aren’t real. I was told I would never have my perfect love story. My prince. My true love. I am no princess, but I should have waited for my Flynn Rider. Perfect? No. After all, he was a theif. But he was perfect for her. And me. (Not that I am Rapunzel, but Flynn…)
He’s the perfect man in animated form. Hm. My guy on the bottom right (see end of post) could be a real-life Flynn, don’t you think? I’m sold. Wrap him up for me. I’ll take him to go. Then I will unwrap him and have very non-Disney-friendly fun with him.
Sorry. I’m back from weird animation fantasy land.
My point is: Don’t listen to them. They are wrong.
The perfect man for me is out there. I’ll just never have him because after being told there was no such thing for so fucking many years, I settled for what I had. I figured it was the best I could do. And there was no point waiting around for Mr. Right since everyone told me he didn’t exist.
So here I am with Mr. Okay-but-wrong-but-available-and-wanted-me. And, I’ll be blunt—life kinda sucks. I know now that I would be happier today if I’d waited for Mr. Right. And that includes happier alone, if I was still waiting.
I guess, in a way, I am waiting. But I can’t leave my current life. For a number of reasons I won’t detail right now, I’m trapped. Yeah—life kinda sucks.
Don’t give up on true love. Learn from my huge mistake.
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Mr. Right—that’s my Flynn. Or Mr. Left. Oh, I don’t know.
p.s. — Did you know that when Disney was designing Flynn, they pulled as many employees as they could into a big conference room to discuss what the perfect man would look like? Clearly, I’m not alone with my preference for tall, dark-haired men with facial hair, abs, and a great sense of humor. And he can sing, too.
Consider this: without the man you chose to marry (love or not) you have two beautiful children you love.
In my past, I hated the things I had to endure. I’m still sour about them all. But without those nightly, nightmarish events, I may not have found the man I fell in love with and married. I may not have this smart-as-hell, smart ass, funny kid that I adore. I may not have my writing or my books. I wouldn’t trade those things for a clean slate and a happy childhood.
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I do love my kids more than anything. But I still think I’d go back and do a better job at life if I had the chance.
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I can understand that.
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Flynn is my favourite too!
He is absolutely gorgeous!!!!
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Totally dreamy.
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Oh and Hiccup from the second movie of How to Train Your Dragon comes a close second!
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Absolutely. Totally agree. I did the same thing, and I was lucky that I found Mr. Right at the right time in my life that I was able to walk away from a relationship that wasn’t healthy anymore. No regrets: I wouldn’t have met Mr. Right if I hadn’t married my first husband, and I wouldn’t have had my kids. So, worth it. But yes, wait for the right person and don’t settle is good life advice.
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I just wish there was still hope for me. I don’t think there is. There are far too many obstacles. Current husband, lack of job/money, major depression, … I could go on.
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I know. *hugs*
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