I was just thinking | d/daughter #atozchallenge

I was just thinking | whatsandrathinks

When I was a kid, I didn’t always stand up for myself. [I still often don’t.] I’d let things slide. I’d go along with things I didn’t want. I figured no one would like me if I spoke up.

My daughter, though, won’t stand for anyone’s shit. [Much to my chagrin, not even mine.] She is a bit defiant and rarely afraid to speak her mind. Don’t get me wrong—she doesn’t share her every thought. That would be inappropriate. But she doesn’t let people get away with being nasty. She doesn’t just give in like I would have at her age [and even now]. She doesn’t say yes to everything like I would to avoid feeling singled out or left out. When someone is mean to her, she stands up for herself.


She has confidence. Oh, she has her moments of self-deprecation and unhappiness. But I notice every single day, even when she’s full-on arguing with me, that she believes in herself.


She loves to give people things. At every possible occasion, and sometimes for no reason at all, she wants to give gifts—bought or made. One time, she even handed me a few dollars and said, “Here Mom. Why don’t you go out and get coffee?” Just randomly… for no reason at all. I try to teach her to save her money. But she is so kind and generous… I don’t want to discourage that.


She is outgoing. I admire this trait enormously because I am the opposite. I wish I was like her.


She is tutoring a little kindergarten boy who’s not native to the US. He has trouble pronouncing some words, and she works with him a couple of times a week. She’s only 11 years old…

I’m so proud.


p.s.—  If I wasn’t so paranoid about putting my kids out there online, I’d post a picture of my little beauty. But you’ll just have to imagine. She looks just like me. Not that [most of] you have seen me…

©2019 what sandra thinks

About what sandra thinks

Sandra is a writer, sometimes blogger, poet, artist, emotional disaster. She thinks far too much and sleeps far too little. Sandra lives in the Northeastern U.S. but dreams of an oceanfront home in Italy, but she would settle for a non-oceanfront home in Italy. She loves books, brutal honesty, coffee, and the color black. She hates insincerity, beer, whipped cream, and facebook. And she is uncomfortable talking about herself in the third person.
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45 Responses to I was just thinking | d/daughter #atozchallenge

  1. SandyLand says:

    Your daughter sounds like a power house/badass/lovely young lady. 🙂

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  2. Sounds like a terrific young lady. She’ll go far with all of those attitudes. Well done, my dear. 😊

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  3. She sounds like an amazing young woman. I hope to raise daughters with the same gusto should I be blessed with them!

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  4. gigglingfattie says:

    What a lovely tribute to her!! She sounds like a very strong young lady who is going to be such an amazing woman when she grows up!

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  5. Miss Andi says:

    That’s beautiful, your daughter is clearly loved very much!

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  6. Your daughter sounds like a beautiful girl, inside and out! Well done, Mom.

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  7. Sandra, this is a lovely post. You should be justifiably proud of producing and nurturing a fine young lady. I do hope you’ve shared this with her. xx

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  8. Meg says:

    She sounds amazing! And a reflection of good parenting. I have no doubt she will grow into a kind, genius and successful woman! She should be proud of your little beauty! ❤️

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  9. She sounds lovely 😊 you should be so proud of her. I’m all for standing up for yourself and being confident and the young people today do it so well. Fair play to your daughter 👏👏👏

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  10. Kamber Shaffer says:

    You and your daughter sound just like me and my daughter. I don’t know where she learned to stand up for herself, but she’s secretly my hero every time I see her do it.

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  11. Your daughter sounds wonderful and amazing! She seems very sweet!

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  12. Hunida says:

    Aww well I imagine she learned all these amazing traits somwhere. ♡ You are probably more like her than you know! She sounds like an awesome kiddo, you have every reason to be proud. 🙂

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  13. She has to be amazing since you’re her Mom….love that she is outgoing and strong. Great post S!

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