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When I was a little kid, my mom had this tradition I rarely mentioned to anyone. Not because it wasn’t great… because it was great… but because it was, I guess, ‘wrong‘.
Every year, we would skip back-to-school clothes shopping before school started. Instead, Mom would pick a day for each of us—my three sisters and I—and she’d keep us home from school. We’d each get a day with just Mom to shop for new school clothes. Sometimes, she would even do it again in the spring.
When my friends asked why I wasn’t at school that day, I’d tell them I was sick. That’s what Mom wrote on the note she sent in the next day. So… I kept it to myself. And I didn’t wear new clothes to school until after the weekend. As if anyone would have noticed.
But I was a
good kid nerd and I didn’t want to get into any trouble. And I never did.
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My daughter was a little sad last night because of that bitch girl who she really does not want to be friends with anymore. She feels trapped because if she’s not friends with her, she could lose other friends. She doesn’t want to put people in the middle and make them choose. But some kids feel like they must.
I’ve told her that these other friends aren’t really friends if they’d abandon her. However, I don’t really believe that and neither does she. They just don’t want get involved, and my daughter doesn’t know whose ‘side‘ they would be on. Because the bitch in question is so obnoxious, it’s quite possible that she would bad-mouth my girl so she could ‘win‘ all the friends. I don’t think everyone would buy it, but my kid doesn’t want to risk it. And I totally understand.
So she acts like the bitch is still her friend… at school. I guess the bitch has a shred of intelligence (just a shred) so she is usually okay while others are around. But outside of school… no. My daughter will not answer the bitch’s phone calls (yeah, she still calls).
For a couple of days a couple of weeks ago, my daughter did answer the phone calls. And for those two days, my daughter was moody, argumentative, and just generally difficult. Revelation! It’s because of the bitch. She had stopped talking to her for a few weeks before those two days and has stopped since, and during those times, she’s her usual sweet self.
The bitch still says things to upset my daughter, though. Like whenever any attention is drawn to my daughter for any reason, the bitch says something like, “I don’t see what the big deal is…” Basically, she tries to negate anything good, positive, or attention-getting that happens to my daughter. And often to other kids, too. If the focus isn’t on her, it doesn’t count… no matter what it is. And if something is about her, she brags about it.
I really hate this kid.
To make a long story short (is obviously not what I’m doing), this was the reason my girl was sad last night. She didn’t want to go to school today. She’s sick of the bitch and her obnoxious comments.
This morning, I decided to write my daughter a note to have her dismissed three hours early. But we’re not going clothes shopping. We’re going to go out and have breakfast for lunch and maybe do some other things.
She was so happy when I dropped her off.
So… either I’ve failed Parenting 101… or I get extra credit.
I vote for the latter.
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