I’m not looking
for a savior
only comfort
for my failures

just hold my hand
when I’m a mess
I’m only human
under distress

pure and simple
is your mission
just give me love
with no conditions

©2017 what sandra thinks

About what sandra thinks

Sandra is a writer, blogger, poet, artist, emotional disaster. She thinks far too much and sleeps far too little. Sandra lives in the Northeastern U.S. but dreams of an oceanfront home in Italy, but she would settle for a non-oceanfront home in Italy, too. She loves books, brutal honesty, coffee, and the color black. She hates insincerity, beer, whipped cream, and facebook. And she is uncomfortable talking about herself in the third person.
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26 Responses to unconditional.

  1. My wife used to say that to me. Don’t try to fix it, just listen and hold me and be there. Took me a long time to get that. Still have to fight the fix-it urge to this day.

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    • She’s right. I’ve said that many many times. But I bet you *really* listen… not just sit there and nod and sometimes look completely preoccupied with something else. That’s annoying as hell. The ‘fix-it’ thing is hard to fight… I can understand that. What’s even worse is the ‘fixer’ who can’t offer anything so there’s no fixing, no listening, and lots of ‘I don’t know what to tell you.’ Man, I hate that sentence!

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      • She used to have to tell me she didn’t need a solution, just an ear and a hug, as a preface to even beginning her talk. The turning point for me was when her mom died. I couldn’t fix it, even though I desperately wanted to. It taught me to just sit with her and listen and acknowledge her hurt. It was hard, because I was hurting too. But I internalize my shit. She has to talk it out.

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  2. tarnishedsoul says:

    This is beautiful.

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  3. magarisa says:

    Ah…unconditional love. Something we all crave.

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  4. This is absolutely wonderful! May I add it to next month’s poetry newsletter?

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  5. Just so lovely. And I will always be there to support you!

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  6. Meg Sorick says:

    I love this. ButI tend to have that ‘I need to fix things’ approach and I frustrate myself when I can’t do that. Even for myself… I want to think my way out of sadness, disappointment, failure, or falling short. And it just compounds itself when I can’t.

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    • Most people feel that way, I think. It’s hard to just listen when someone is obviously in pain. But the most important thing really is to listen — really listen, not nod while staring at one’s phone (will not mention a name but you already know anyway)… and really tell the person you care… a hug… and hell, even an ‘everything will be alright…’ even if that’s a lie. Because thinking it’s going to be alright and thinking it’s not are the same — either way you could be believing something that will never be true. I struggle with that because I always assume the negative one is true. Because I’m such a positive and uplifting person. 😐 😀

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