I wrote about my daughter for D so I should write about my son, too. I’m not waiting for S, though. I have, like, twelve ideas for S. Besides, both of my kids’ names start with M. It wasn’t intentional, it just happened. The whole time I was pregnant with my daughter, I thought her name was going to start with E or S or A.
I feel totally justified in writing about my son for M. So there.
Like my daughter, the boy [as we usually refer to him, just as Homer refers to Bart] has more courage than I have. Like the girl, the boy stands up for himself, and I’m so proud of him for that—especially since he’s had his share of bullies. Sure, he might ignore the small things. But if it’s something more, he tells a teacher, the principal, someone. As a kid should. He got a real dick of a kid suspended once. Oh wait, no, there were two of them. I love that he speaks up and shows those little fuckers that they shouldn’t mess with him.
I know there are a few kids still who are quite often not nice, shall we say, to the boy, but he doesn’t let it tear him down. He recognizes that there are some things that he cannot control, and he doesn’t waste time trying. He’s a strong kid.
He seemed shy when he was younger, but I don’t think he’s particularly shy now. He’s pretty outspoken and independent. Although he still doesn’t want to make his own damn pb & j… but that’s my fault for always volunteering to do it for him. I should stop doing that. Anyway (another stupid pet word)… moving on…
The boy gets involved. This year, he was the ‘Tech Leader’ for the drama club (in charge of sets, props, etc.). For a kid who I thought was shy, he has proven me wrong. He made jokes when he was brought up on stage after the final performance to receive a gift for his hard work. He’s funny. And he surprises and amazes me all the time.
He is incredibly smart. He can just figure things out… all sorts of things. And with school, well, he is pretty amazing. He is in eighth grade this year—next year he starts high school. He applied for ‘The Academy’ (advanced honors program) at the high school and was accepted. Let’s just hope he lands a scholarship in a few years so we don’t lose the house to pay for college.
Another thing I adore about him is that he’s a saver. He might even be a miser, but I think it’s a good thing. He saves both his money and his chocolate. He can make that chocolate last a long time. He still has some that my daughter (the spender/giver) gave him for Valentine’s Day. He even has a stash of Hershey bars that my mom gave him for Christmas (yes, they are still good).
He paces himself. With money. And with chocolate.
I guess he’s superhuman.
p.s.— The boy also spends ‘too much’ time playing Fortnite. I guess it’s bad parenting to let him do that, but I don’t care. He always does homework first. Plus, I’d be a total hypocrite for how much time I spend on my favorite game/app. The one that shall not be named.
p.s. #2— I realize I am a day behind. Today should be N. I’m working on it. Actually, that’s a lie. I haven’t been working on it. But I will.
©2019 what sandra thinks
what sandra thinks 
So sweet about the Hershey’s
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And so difficult to get him to share!
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And you’re worried about those two? Sounds like they got this. 😃
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They’ve got it more than I do! Today my daughter was upset about some friend drama (ugh, girls), but she never cried… she was just angry for a while, then she was okay. I, on the other hand, couldn’t keep from crying. I had to hide in the shower for a little while. I’m a mess. I’m glad they aren’t, too. Although sometimes I see traces of me in them and it makes me worry about them in the future. I don’t want them to become like me.
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Why does it bother you so much if it doesn’t bother her? She did what you’d want her to do, right? Get mad, get over it, move on. Be glad, not sad. 😃
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Logically, I have no answer for you. I don’t make sense! The feeling I get comes from inside me somewhere. I have no warning. Suddenly I just get choked up and I start to cry. I don’t know how to stop it or prevent it because it comes instantly. It’s like a surprise slap in the face. Boom… there it is. And it doesn’t go away. I keep thinking about it for hours… and it rips me up inside. I think it’s because I never want my kids to experience this kind of shit at all and it breaks me when they do.
I’m glad she handles it better than I do.
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Oh, my dear, you know as well as I do that they’ll face much worse things in a lifetime. Everybody (well, good parents, at least) wants to protect their kids from life’s bullshit. But, it’s not possible, nor is it good for them to be sheltered. She’s fine. And I’m guessing these words fell onto deaf ears. 😃
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I understand. This is why I don’t know why the hell I thought I could handle having kids. I am overly worried and sad for them all the time. It’s so hard. I don’t know how to handle it. I really wasn’t cut out for this.
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I hear ya’. My heart breaks about something related to them nearly daily, big or small. But, you gotta let ‘em fly, man. You obviously gave them a terrific foundation. They’re good. 🤙🏻
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I hope so. My biggest fear: that they turn out like me. Sad, lonely, unhappy, depressed, self-loathing. I’m scared for them. I wouldn’t wish the way I feel on anyone, especially not my kids.
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Well, they seem pretty grounded. Try not to worry until there’s actually something to worry about. Most things we worry about never happen anyway. 😊
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That’s true…
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I am also a terrible parent for letting my daughter on her phone too much, but (like you), it would be hypocritical to complain.
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Oh yes… I shouldn’t single out my son. My daughter is on her phone or iPad constantly. Or using the Xbox. And when my son isn’t on the Xbox, he’s on his phone. That’s just how it is these days. I don’t like it, but that’s life now.
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I saw an article recently about how it’s not as bad as we think it is. So maybe that’s right?
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I hope so!
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He sounds like a wonderful guy who will go far in life!
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I think so, too. But I may be biased. 🙂
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Well, we moms should be biased. When u have kids it’s wonderful to see them grow into fabulous adults.
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Sounds to me like you have a couple of great kids there, and I dare say, if anyone asked them, they would say they have a great Mom!!
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Maybe…
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Aw your son sounds so lovely & strong, Sandra. Hmm, I wonder where he learned all these good traits from! & all kids are playing too much Fortnite right now– at least yours does his homework first, does extracurriculars, & is going to be in honors classes. 🙂
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He is a great kid. With a boy, sometimes it’s hard because at 14, he doesn’t want to hang out with mom. I don’t feel like I spend enough time with just him. But at his age, I wouldn’t expect anything different…
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You’re right!! 14-18 is when kiddos want less to do with their parents, even if they have the very best ones.
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I am so far behind! He sounds like a great kid, Sandra. An engineer in the making – he sounds just like H! Maybe H can hire him when he’s ready!
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I’d love for him to be an engineer. No idea what will happen though. He has expressed interest in being a lawyer… which surprises me. But, well, I’m not him. Also, he is only 14…
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Yes, he has plenty of time to make up his mind. A lawyer, how about that!
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