being mom.

I’ve had days when I can’t figure out what the hell made me think I could handle being a parent. Am I really going to be able to take care of them? Give them everything they need? Keep them safe and happy? Will I be good enough? Will they love me like I love my mom? Will I figure out how to be a mom and a friend without being too much of either?

I’ve had these questions since the start of my mom-life. They jumped at me again full-force when I became a mom for the second time. I’m sure I will never have definitive answers. I don’t think any exist. And that’s okay.

I do the best I can. I know sometimes it’s not good enough, but the only person who holds that against me is me. No one expects me to be perfect. I’m not sure why I expect it. I know my children love me. Sometimes, even after this many years as a mother, I can’t believe how much they love me. And how much I love them.

Oh, there are days I want to run off to a spa and relax and worry about nothing and no one. I want to have quiet peace and calm without hearing any kid-related sounds whatsoever. But before long, I would miss them. I would miss the very sounds I thought I needed a break from.

And how could I ever want to be away from anyone who, for no reason in particular, presents me with something like this…

win-award      winner

That’s my girl! And while I’m celebrating my Super Mom award victory, I can sip the iced coffee my daughter considerately provided… my God, she is adorable.

icedcoffee

I guess I must be doing all right…

 

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About what sandra thinks

Sandra is a writer, sometimes blogger, poet, artist, emotional disaster. She thinks far too much and sleeps far too little. Sandra lives in the Northeastern U.S. but dreams of an oceanfront home in Italy, but she would settle for a non-oceanfront home in Italy. She loves books, brutal honesty, coffee, and the color black. She hates insincerity, beer, whipped cream, and facebook. And she is uncomfortable talking about herself in the third person.
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11 Responses to being mom.

  1. bries's avatar Deb says:

    You are doing great I think!

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  2. You’re a much better Mom than me….. and that’s not just because I’m a Dad!
    Take care

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  3. How lovely ❤ enjoy Christmas with them xxx

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  4. theturtle's avatar izabolinha says:

    You are doing very very well 🙂
    And those doubts come with the territory , I think they assault all of us , especially the “super-mom awards recipients” 😉
    Have a lovely Christmas with your loving and adorable kids ❤
    Turtle Hugs

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  5. Stephie's avatar stephieann8 says:

    That is so creative to make you an iced coffee like that! How cute! I often wonder the same stuff. I want to be a mom but wonder if I have the energy for it!

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  6. That is awesome. A keeper for forever! (You’ll want to reference it in the teen years.)

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  7. Piyusha Vir's avatar Wandering Soul says:

    if the angel says you are a winner, then you certainly are 🙂 better than any other award. Congrats!

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