I can’t remember when the tides turned. It used to be fun. I used to look forward to it. Now, it just fills me with dread and disappointment.
Yeah, that’s right. I’ll be turning 29 again soon…. in 9 days… on the 11th.
What? You want to get me a gift? I will be happy to accept. I wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings. But it’s so hard for me to come up with suggestions. Just send money. Or buy me coffee.
In truth, it is a crappy day for me. I don’t want to age anymore. So while I don’t want it to be a huge celebration, I don’t want it to be (mostly) forgotten or ignored either. But that’s what tends to happen. I usually bake my own cake. Maybe get some take-out so I don’t have to cook. My daughter will make me a card… she always comes through on that. And that will be it. I guess it’s fine… maybe it’ll kind of erase the aging part. Oh please… no it won’t. Sigh.
I will try not to slip in to a depressive state over this, but honestly, no one would even notice as I’m already in that state. I need to get to a different state. Like Hawaii.
Who knows? Maybe it’ll be better this year. I’ll keep you posted.
©2018 what sandra thinks
My birthday is the 10th, and I feel exactly the same way you do when that date comes around. Last year, my very small group of friends gathered to throw me a little birthday party. I was sincerely touched but the lingering feeling of depression just coincides with that day. It was on the 8th of the month my ex-husband was killed on his job site. Since his death, I have always felt guilty for being the one who lived. (Hard to explain). Tomorrow would have been our 28th anniversary if we had remained together. When I think about it, every birthday since his death has always sucked. I don’t know why I rambling, sorry about that.
From one Gemini to another, I understand how birthdays aren’t a celebration for some of us out there. I do hope you have a pleasant birthday, and that your year improves. That’s my b’d wish too. 🙂
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Hugs Beck! 😍😘 My Mom is in rehab after suffering a stroke three weeks ago. Her birthday is on the 14th. She has had a rough go since we lost my younger sister in 2013. After that she had a fall and had to have surgical fusion for spinal stenosis. So… over five years… she will be 71. Life is hard. But you cling to the good times. Lots of love! I’m close with my Mom and we get along great. Not perfect but great.
Feels all the way to my heart! Sending you lots of love my friend! 💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💖
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Thank you, for your kind words of support and your comment. I am so terribly sorry for all that you are going through. I too am very close to my Mom, although she lives in Florida. We talk daily and talk about the good memories as much as possible. It really does help both of us. My mom is 72, and rather ill.
We try to talk about all things good even when we are feeling low. I will keep your mother and you in m prayers, Mel. Lots of love sent your way too. God Bless, you. 🙂 xxoo!
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Awe… thank you! Same to you sweetie! That made me teary eyed! I am so sorry about your Mom. I hope things get better for the both of you! Thoughts and prayers! Lots of hugs! (Just corrected typo… jugs to hugs. 😅😅😅😅)
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Now that made me laugh! I needed that, Thank you, Dear. God Bless. 💗
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haha jugs…
(sorry to interrupt your conversation!)
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Sorry! Its YOUR comment thread! I shared with Beck knowing full well you would read darlin! 😉
That’s how comment threads work! 😘😘😘😘😘
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I make a lot of wrong decisions… I didn’t want to barge in. I’m sorry… I just feel like I don’t do anything right lately. Thanks for being so sweet. ♥
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You’re fine and you can’t go wrong when having conversations with friends! 😉
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I meant that sorry with a ? mark. Lol! 😅😅😅
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Aww… It’s really hard at the anniversaries of difficult things. My cousin’s birthday is this week, too, and he died last year at this time of a brain tumor… he was younger than I am.
I hope you have a good birthday, too, despite everything else. 🙂
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Thank you, Sweetie. I’m so sorry for your loss. Yes, anniversaries are very difficult. Hang in there despite it all. 🙂
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You are both very sweet people! I’m so glad for this exchange! Thank you both! 😘😘😊😊
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Sandra… you’re not the only one who feels this way. I think we’re all entitled to our feelings. No one can know exactly how you feel and what you must go through. We’re all different. But as I mentioned to Beck, we cling to the good times. Thoughts short spurts of laughter and good feels. All we can do is try and move forward.
I’m with my Mom right now. We’ve laughed an awful lot. It helps tremendously. Laughter is the best medicine. Also… dancing. But I’ve already mentioned that to you. 😉
Sending you love and hugs lovely! 😍😘
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Thanks… you’re very sweet. ♥ I just wish the overwhelming feelings of sadness would give me a break. I guess I’m supposed to make that happen on my own, but I’m failing. 😦
The stuff about my cousin doesn’t help either (in my other comment to Beck)… his birthday is this week… and he died this week last year of cancer… he was younger than me…
I’m just having a hard time with everything right now. It feels like it’s never going to get better.
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I am getting older but I don’t want to age emotionally or mentally. That is when I would get into trouble. I don’t wanna be someones grouchy old man.
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I’m already grouchy! No, not always… but yes, getting older sucks!
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Birthdays can be tricky. I had a rotten one last year – only three people remembered. I felt sorry for myself for a few days, then treated myself by getting a tattoo and visiting an art gallery.
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It’s good to treat yourself. I know I will be at least getting myself a treat from my favorite bakery…
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I still haven’t recovered fully from turning 50. Getting old is not for sissies. I think Betty Davis said that. I have to agree. Well, I hope your day is a better than expected day, how about that for a realistic wish? 😃 💖
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Getting older sucks. Maybe if I knew I was getting a winning lottery ticket for my birthday, I’d feel better about it. LOL But still… it wouldn’t make me any younger. A realistic wish is probably better… leads to less disappointment… 🙂
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Yep, it sure does. Hope you get that lottery ticket! ❤️
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Well, I’m not planning on buying any tickets… so chances are low. 🙂
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But if someone bought you one as a gift…. 🤯
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I should drop a hint (and by that, I mean leave detailed instructions) for my husband because he won’t think of it on his own… (like Diane was saying…) 🙂
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Right?!? Men!!! 🙄
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Birthdays are kind of hard for me, but as hubby says, the alternative sucks. And he would know — he’s lots older than me, haha. If you want take out, tell your husband that before the day. Guys really need help with this. Same with cards, etc. Tell him flat out he needs to take the kids to buy you something, whatever it is, however small or large. Don’t expect him to know this. You will be disappointed. Take it from someone who’s been there.
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I just hate having to ask. Then it’s like he’s just doing an errand for me. ‘Hey, go get me at least a card.’ So he gets me one. Same thing as ‘Hey, pick up some milk on your way home.’ It’s the thought that counts… but not MY thought! LOL
But yes, I know guys suck at this. Well, most of them. There are exceptions. But I didn’t marry one.
Maybe I will just tell him what to get for dinner so I don’t have to cook…
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I get that. I’ve had to say I expect at least a card for my birthday or dinner for our anniversary. Now it’s more like we count a vacation as a gift. But one year he got me a vacuum cause we needed one. He’s never done that again… I know there are men who are good at this but I didn’t marry one either!
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Yeah… those men are rare. I need to trade mine in for another model. LOL I’m kidding. Kind of.
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I know…
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My birthday is on the 15th! We’re very close but I am feeling the exact same way as you about aging. Definitely dreading it. Ugh.
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And you are definitely much younger than I am! But getting older sucks once you hit a certain point… which probably varies from person to person. I was good at 5 or 6. LOL
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Birthdays are so bittersweet. Bleh.
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