get out.

Posted on 15 May 2018 by what sandra thinks

Please don’t say ‘I told you so.‘ I’ve always known you were right. Getting out of the house helps me. It’s never been about wanting to get out. It’s always been about being able to get out. I know that sounds ridiculous to most of you… but it’s reality for me. Some days, it can be extremely difficult.

When I’m required to go out—appointments, kids’ stuff, a job when I had one—I can do it easily. But as soon as it’s optional, I struggle. Even when I’m dying to get out of here. I can’t explain it… and I’m betting that to many of you, this makes no sense. Hell, it makes no sense to me either.

How can it be so difficult to do things I want to do? (Not just getting out of the house…) I know… ‘just do it.‘ I sooo wish it were that simple. Sometimes, I can force myself. Other times, it doesn’t work out.

I don’t know how I did it today. I never know how. Oh… I couldn’t shut my brain up… it started, like always, to talk me out of it. But I guess I managed to win the fight with myself. That sentence makes no sense. If I’m fighting with myself, I’ll always win. I guess it’s a matter of which me wins.

I drove to a park nearby. I didn’t stay long or walk a trail or anything. I wasn’t dressed for that… definitely wearing the wrong shoes. But I took a few pictures…

Then I went to get a big fat iced coffee.
[Sorry… the coffee is gone now and I neglected to photograph it…]

When I got home, I took these lilac pictures in my front yard… I wish you could smell them…

 

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About what sandra thinks

Sandra is a writer, sometimes blogger, poet, artist, emotional disaster. She thinks far too much and sleeps far too little. Sandra lives in the Northeastern U.S. but dreams of an oceanfront home in Italy, but she would settle for a non-oceanfront home in Italy. She loves books, brutal honesty, coffee, and the color black. She hates insincerity, beer, whipped cream, and facebook. And she is uncomfortable talking about herself in the third person.
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34 Responses to get out.

  1. theacquiescentsoul says:
    15 May 2018 at 1:27 pm

    Those are some beautiful pictures, Sandra! Thanks for sharing.
    I am certainly not going to tell you “I told you so”, because I get it…oh, do I get it. I just hope you found some joy in it…especially the iced coffee 😀

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  2. therantsofninjapants says:
    15 May 2018 at 1:59 pm

    This spoke to my agoraphobic, anxiety riddled heart. I’m please you managed to get out! Well done sweetie 💞

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    • what sandra thinks says:
      15 May 2018 at 2:01 pm

      Thanks so much. ♥ I didn’t confess the part where I wanted to go over to a different area in the park but there were people there so I kind of panicked and left… But I’m glad I got out.

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  3. Mel Gutiér says:
    15 May 2018 at 2:54 pm

    Beautiful! Small steps… towards big rewards. You’re good. 😊💞

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  4. Lana Cole says:
    15 May 2018 at 3:19 pm

    Lovely photos! It always makes me feel better when I get out of the house, sometimes it hits me that I haven’t left the house for days.. 😊☀️

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  5. sonofabeach96 says:
    15 May 2018 at 3:51 pm

    I am uber proud of you. I get what you’re saying, about fighting with yourself. That’s not a foreign concept to most of us, I’m sure. But fighting those negative things back is just how it’s done. There really is no other way, I don’t think. And, I’ll assume that first paragraph is a generalized statement, and specifically directed at a specific someone. 😃😃

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  6. Peter's pondering says:
    15 May 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Oh yes, I can smell that lilac, it’s imprinted in whatever bit of my brain keeps smells safe. It almost makes me dizzy, it’s so strong.
    Super happy that you had a trip out, even if you didn’t do everything you would have liked. It really is good to breathe at this time of year isn’t it, with all the new growth, the new life, especially baby birds bullying their moms to get more food.
    Hugs.

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  7. jrvincente says:
    15 May 2018 at 7:19 pm

    Lilacs are my favorite flowers. My mom’s best friend gave me a bush for my house when we bought it. It’s just in bloom!

    Yay for getting out of the house! I totally understand how hard it can be to find the motivation.

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  8. Meg says:
    15 May 2018 at 10:01 pm

    Great photos! I’m glad you had a nice breath of fresh air and some lovely scenery. But it looks like you have some pretty lovely scenery right in the front yard. 😃

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  9. Juli Hoffman says:
    16 May 2018 at 6:50 am

    Your lilacs are sooo beautiful!! (And yeah…it DOES make sense. HUGS!!!)

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  10. The V Pub says:
    16 May 2018 at 10:39 am

    Watch out where you’re walking. I was watching the news and a woman got treed by a pack of coyotes.

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  11. rugby843 says:
    16 May 2018 at 11:34 am

    I know exactly what you mean. The pictures are gorgeous. I’m glad you went out.

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  12. Hunida says:
    17 May 2018 at 1:57 am

    Yay! Pretty photos! I’m glad you got out there! ♡

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  13. visionsbyjoe says:
    22 May 2018 at 7:52 am

    Weird. I struggle with the “optional get out”, also. My brother and I don’t have sense of smell either. Love the pictures!

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