This will probably sound ridiculous… but it’s making me so sad. I have tears.
An app my daughter loves on her phone updated to a new version and she hates it. It’s totally different and she’s miserable. She cried for over an hour about it. My husband tried to install the older version but it didn’t work. She doesn’t know yet… she fell asleep while he was trying to fix it. She is going to be devastated when she wakes up.
I don’t know why my husband couldn’t fix it. There are instructions all over the place explaining how to do this. He’s really good with this sort of thing… I don’t know why it didn’t work. But if he couldn’t do it, I think it would be a bad idea for me to try. I know what I’m doing less than he does. I don’t want to fuck up her phone.
I know it seems like it’s not a big deal, but to her, it’s huge. She uses it with her friends and she is convinced she will have no friends now. There’s nothing I can do. It makes me feel sick.
There’s always something. Always. My family… always something. If any little thing can go wrong, it does for us. I just want my girl to be happy. What the hell kind of mother am I if I can’t make her happy? I hate Mother’s Day. It just emphasizes how much of a failure I am.
x
sandra
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I am so sad…
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I’m really sorry, Sandra… Really.
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Maybe someday something will go right for my family…
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I hope things are better today…
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She’s not in a good mood and neither am I. It’s not a good day. I’m going to take a shower so no one sees or hears me crying.
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I hope she remembered to wish you Happy Mother’s day and give you a hug when she woke up. Hugs to you Sandra.
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She did. Just her though. Boys are useless with that sort of thing… Well, mine anyway. Doesn’t help that their dad doesn’t remind them to do something. The girl thinks of it and does something on her own…
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Maybe the initial change in the app is no good, but can she learn to like it? I know it’s not the same and to a tween it’s the end of the world, but maybe after a few days of using it, it will be better?
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I hope so. That’s what I keep telling her… I just hate when she’s so upset like that. But she doesn’t really have a choice…
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I’m sure it will all be ok – things like that always seem like the end of the world at that age. She will adapt and thrive from it 🙂
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I know. I just hated that she went to bed crying last night. Thanks 🙂
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I can’t imagine! I hope today was better for her
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She seems much better now. I took her out for coffee. Well, she didn’t get coffee… she got strawberry milk. I got coffee, obviously. 🙂
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Awww I’m glad she is better! I’m sure the mother/daughter time was just what she needed
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I don’t have any tip to offer on app (being the tech-oblivious) but on a different note: please don’t be so hard on yourself as a mother.
I don’t have children but have seen my own mother and other moms in my family/surroundings having self-inflicted guilt-trips and becoming miserable at the end of the day.
Moms are not superheroes as projected by the popular patriarchal media. Not every onus lies onto them. Take Care.
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Thank you… I know I put too much pressure on myself. I just hate seeing my kids upset… and not being able to fix it. But thank you.
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❤
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If her app updated so will all her friends’ apps. And a lot of times the older version will stop being supported and won’t work anymore too. So all the kids will be using the new version, too. She will get used to it. Kids are adaptable especially with technology. Truly!Give yourself a break today, Sandra! ❤️❤️❤️
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I told her that, too… eventually everyone will have to update. I told her she’d get used to it, too. I don’t know… I just feel bad.
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I’m sorry. I haven’t figured out how to stop blaming myself. I’ve done it my whole life so it takes a long time to change it. I’m working on it. I am being treated for depression. I wish it was a quick fix but it’s not. And I tend to use my blog partially to vent when I feel bad. And I also have trouble letting go of my past decisions and my regrets. Again, I’m trying. I’m working on it. I have been going through a particularly bad time lately. I’m sorry this is getting old. I don’t consider it to be BS. But I can see how people would. I am always concerned I’m going to drive people away because I talk about these things often but everyone always says if I need to write and share it, do it. So I do. But I guess maybe I shouldn’t. Unfortunately, lately it’s overwhelming and I haven’t been able to write anything else. Maybe I should disappear for a while if this is too much. I don’t want to lose my friends. I feel terrible about this post and all the recent ones now. This has really upset me. Sorry, I am not in a great place. And now I feel worse since it’s “getting old”. Happy Mother’s Day.
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I hate app updates! Poor girl! 😣
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I know she’ll get used to it but I hate seeing her so upset!
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Hope your day went well. Meg is right, our stupid apps keep updating and not always at the same time, but eventually everyone’s will. Those preteens take everything to heart. It will be better…
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I know you’re right. It is just like what we were saying the other day… when our kids are upset and we can’t fix it, it sucks! It’s so difficult to watch!
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I echo all of the above. Especially that all of her friends will be in the same boat and will relearn it. Is that only with Apple?
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It’s android… I know she’ll learn to live with it. It just breaks my heart when she is so upset like that…
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I’m so sorry. And I totally understand. I hate when something I’m used to suddenly changes and becomes unfamiliar and frustrating. But the fact that you care so much about this makes you an excellent mother, definitely not a failure.
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Thanks. I just hate when I can’t fix things for her. Seeing my kid so upset really gets to me.
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I know—there’s nothing worse than your child being unhappy and not being able to help.
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Doubt you’re a failure… you know how many Mom’s don’t give a flip about meeting their children’s basic needs? Are you meeting her basic needs? Shelter, food, clothes? Love? I’m pretty sure you’re an awesome Mom! 💖💞💖
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It is just painful to be helpless when either of my kids is upset about something. I always feel like I should be able to fix it even though deep down I know that’s not always possible. Sometimes, I think I empathize a little too much! But thank you… 🙂
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True… maybe… Life can bring disappointment sometimes. They need to be able to get over hurdles without having a meltdown. Give it some time. Perhaps redirecting to another project while the other issue is resolved might help.
It’s all good! 😉
Hugs!
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I do need to step away at times to let them learn how to handle things on their own. That is hard for me to do… which is both good and bad. Thanks for the hugs! ♥
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😉😘
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I hate when they do that. 😦 I empathize completely.
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♥
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We all feel like a failure at some point, but things will get better. I’m sure your kids will understand and appreciate how great you are as a mom! 🙂
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Thank you. 🙂 I just can’t seem to help getting very emotional and upset when my kids are hurting. It’s so frustrating not to be able to help!
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I like this post because it hit my emotions pretty hard. 😦 I hope you start feeling better.
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I hope it makes you feel less alone… and I hope you feel better, too. ♥
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It hit my emotions.
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